Once again I’m borrowing from my dear friend, Rev. Robert Mitchell (creator of Spirit Speaks) and his book God, the Universe and You. Check it out.
Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place.” ― Rumi
Rumi also said we have to become a hollow reed for God to flow through. Spiritual transformation is a hollowing out or emptying process that can be painful. Spiritual Transformation can so tear away the ego (the thing we know the most) that the mind and body may feel abandoned and lost. However, the sorrow, pain, loneliness, or our dark nights of the soul become the process by which we human beings become Spiritual Beings.
Struggle creates change. Our struggles create a desire for things to be different and create change just as it does in nature. For instance, the struggle a caterpillar goes through to become a butterfly – those last few moments, full of panic, fluttering so hard to be released, or the physical pressure on a piece of carbon to become a diamond. If we look at the transformation of life after a downpour or the renewal of a forest after a fire, we can see the change has happened for the good. If we look at the bondage in our lives, our thunderstorms, our fires, we can see that they create a longing for freedom and impel us to transform from one stage of life to the next. We will never really know what choice nature has, but we can choose to stay in the struggle, or we can choose to do something about it. Anaïs Nin says that it is a kind of death to elect a state and remain in it. We also can trade one struggle for another or bury our heads in the sand; but in that moment, life is asking us to move on, to change, and if we do we are free.